"If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail…it takes backbone to lead the life you want." - Richard Yates Shake it off. Isn’t that just the worst thing to hear as you’re dealing with failure? What’s even more infuriating is that some people do actually seem to have the ability to shake things off when circumstances don’t work out the way they planned. While some people just have the trait within them, others need to work at it. How do you go about developing resilience if it isn’t a natural part of your personality? Luckily, just because you aren’t born with that part of your personality, it doesn’t mean you can’t develop those traits over time. Here are a few steps to take to make sure failure doesn’t hold you back from getting you what you want.